Dear John,

Do guys get grossed out by women at the gym? There are TONS of hot guys at the gym I go to, and I’m hoping one (or more) of them will chat me up and ask me out. The only problem is I sweat like crazy at the gym. Like I’ve been wandering the Sahara for days. Is that a turn off for guys? Sometimes I feel like they are staring at the ‘sweaty girl’ and I get self-conscious.

     – Sweat Stains

Dear SS,

If you are an attractive girl at the gym, you are probably getting stared at, but your sweat is not what they are looking at. There is no need for you to worry. Trust me, for most guys it’s a turn on. It seems like you may be the self-conscious one here thought. There are other options, bring two towels and towel off often. Use an over-the-counter clinical strength deodorant/anti-perspirant and if that isn’t strong enough, see your doctor and tell them about your excessive sweating (keep in mind that women have more sweat glands then men). It might be a sign of hyperhidrosis caused by other medical factors. But if it’s just a case of your going the distance, then the men around you will be impressed. Don’t wait for them to talk to you, go talk to them. If you want to let them make the first move, fine, but let them make the moves after you start the conversation. It’s never a good idea to keep a lady waiting.

Dear John,

I’m a woman who is seeing multiple men at the same time. I met another guy at my local coffee shop. We go at the same time every morning and we flirt like crazy. The sparks are flying! I really like him and want to date him, but I’m not about to stop seeing multiple men. I know guys like to date multiple women, but how do they feel when the shoe is on the other foot?

     – Other Foot Girl

Dear OFG,

Guys in general probably aren’t okay with that, but most guys are smart enough not to ask questions they don’t want to know the answer to. Unless you and he are officially monogamous or at the point where you’re ready to have the ‘State of the Union” address, it’s probably not going to be an issue.

If he’s looking for a wife and a relationship leading to marriage and you know you’re not okay with that, then he would want to know sooner rather than later. Likewise, if you know you don’t want to get serious with him (or anyone) it’s important to be upfront about things.

Many people I know who enjoy dating multiple partners pride themselves on telling any potential new romantic partner the score straight out. That way, they can make an informed decision and if they choose to go forward, they can’t say they weren’t warned.

They say honesty is the best policy, but do you agree? That’s the real question. And you’re the only one who can answer.