What makes a man sexy to me nowadays is insurance. Health insurance and auto insurance. Imagine he has some illness with no insurance. You feel helpless, and the only way to insure him is marriage… run from that! Let him be insured.
Extra admiration if he’s got homeowner’s insurance… even if he’s got renter’s insurance. He’s really worth looking into if he owns his place. Renting is just fine, but roommates are worth really thinking about, before getting involved.
Once I was dating two men; one six years younger who drove a pickup; the other ten years my senior, in a BMW. The elder, one day told me “you don’t need a boy with a truck, you need a man with money and property.” I chose the boy. My mistake.
What makes a man sexy is hair. I know they can’t help it, but having been married to a bald man, I gotta say I don’t like the cue ball. I imagine I’ll get over that but for now, give me a man with no light bouncing off his pate.
Abs. A man my age who has any is a delight to find. Actually my favorite part of a man is the curve inward at the hip bones. But that’s also the point at which a gut starts to show so it’s either really sexy or it’s just not.
A job. Times are really tough. I know lots of people who got tossed out of work at some point in the past three years. And there are lots of very inexpensive or free ways to have fun. But a man without an income is just not sexy.
What makes a man sexy is a clean-shaven face. Some men look terrific with facial hair. But shaving it every day so he’ll be clean in case he gets to see you… that’s going the extra mile for you and it just feels better on sensitive skin.
Some women love a bare chested man. Not me. I bring the breasts; he brings the hairy chest. That’s sort of the deal. Not too much hair, now. And not too coarse. I don’t mind some hair on the shoulders or even some on the back. Just not a jungle.
Man-boobs are not sexy. I know not every man can have a developed , muscular chest. And lots of men are overweight. But when he’s so fat he’d be wearing a b-cup or better, well that’s just a turnoff.
Confidence. There are few things sexier than a man who knows his strengths and is playing his “A” game. But confidence can be overdone as well. Arrogance, pompousness and snobbery are disgusting.
Four wheels. Bicycles are healthy and fuel-saving and fun. Motorcycles also are fun. And skateboards. But they are not practical grownup ways of getting around on a date. Or with groceries. He’s got to have at least one four wheeled vehicle.
Anything matching, is sexy. I don’t mean matching-couple outfits, yuk. But if he’s got furniture that goes together, or a whole set of dishes or sheets, that’s sexy. It shows he doesn’t need a woman to live a full life, he just really wants one.
Writing is sexy. It doesn’t have to be a sonnet or other love poem. Whether it’s a pet phrase on a post-it note, or an email or a text in the middle of the day, written communication carries a lot of weight. It probably will be read over and over again.
Putting the seat down. You’ve heard the statistics – in a male/female household the eat gets used down, more often than up, so the seat should stay down when not in use. Logic aside, put the seat down for us just cuz you’re considerate. That’s sexy.
Fixing things. We love it when you become “the man around the house” and start fixing stuff. It says you want to take care of us, and we like that. Many of us could probably do the job ourselves, but we probably won’t tell you that.
Creativity is sexy. Especially when you’ve been together awhile. It can start to feel usual, and you need to reinject romance. When you first start dating everything’s romantic because it’s the first time you did something together. Reinvent that.
Keeping the bathroom door closed. Even if you’re bound together for life in sickness and in health, there are some human things ya just never want to have to see ever, if you can help it. Destroys the romance and the sexiness. Keep the door closed.
Remembering is sexy. Remembering what we told them, remembering important dates, remembering to call or text or email to impress on us what a good time they had. Making new memories together is sexy.
